time travel

You Can Never Go Home Again…

There’s something great about that. You lived it once and that’s all you’re going to get it. God! You wish maybe you could go back and do that one thing differently and yet…

Don’t do that.

It happened. And it’s great. Or not. Doesn’t really matter at this point. It happened and that’s that.

So what’s the take away? What now?

You know that this isn’t how it ends. You know you’ve likely got (god willing) another 40-50-80 years to finish this run. How does your earlier experience influence your future behavior?

I miss old friends with the gravity of a dwarf star. Hell, I miss current friends the same. I don’t want to go through that again. I know what I want my future to look like: I want to look back and see myself reading to my kids after a LONG day. So, I read to them after a LONG day. I want to look back and see that I took the chances I needed to in order to start my own thing – because that’s what was needed to be happy. I didn’t “wait” because something was going to “happen” – whenever that is.

2002 was awesome. I’d love to spend a week there. So was 93′ and 05′ but that doesn’t mean we can live in space we already did. We have a new one of those every moment – RIGHT NOW. So what do you want your future self to say about this moment.

Would you want to go back to “right now?”

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Congrats! You’re living in the future!

So how’s that working out? The future I mean.

Everything you hoped? 

Oh. You don’t think this is the “future” or better yet “the FUUUUTTTTURRRREEE?” Just imagine a deep ominous voice announcing it. Or is that how you already imagine it? Like, maybe to qualify as the future it needs to be properly announced and fawned all over?

Make no mistake my friend. This is the future, and you are here. If you were alive yesterday, or a year ago, or 20 years ago, this qualifies. No, we’re not all living in Jetson-style cloud dwellings with robot maids, but that doesn’t change the fact that a significant portion of time has passed. I know, nine-year-old Rob is still pissed about his lack of a working hoverboard. 

So what do you think? Happy with your place in it? With your station in life, with your previous selves’ choices? Because you’re living here and you should be. Odd, because nothing you can do at this moment will change your immediate situation. Only, things you can start to do to change your new future. The good news is, for most of us, you get to have new “futures” all the time. Until you don’t. 

What do you want to do with this future to set up the next one, and the one after that? Every day, every hour is a chance to do something new – or more of what’s working for you. How will you use it?

The yacht doesn’t show up magically on your 50th birthday. The 30th wedding anniversary surrounded by adoring friends and family just doesn’t materialize out of thin air when you turn 60. The promotion, your business, your slate of memories of doing amazing things doesn’t just plop from the sky.

Odds are, when you hit those milestones you’ll likely feel like they won’t be the “future” either. They’ll feel just like this. Just like right now. After all, you’ll be there, and you only think you live in the present. 

I guess what you should ask yourself is this: Do you, only live in the future? And if not, what do you want to do now to make the new future what you’d like it to be?